Carry, don’t Lift, Burdens Apr10

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Carry, don’t Lift, Burdens

Guest blog post by Courtney DeFeo

One of the biggest reasons we don’t mentor is because we are full with our own junk. Well, that’s my excuse.

I have so much on my own heart, with my own family, that I fear I cannot emotionally or physically manage anyone else. The truth is that I am a better person when I am focusing on others and not myself.

The enemy wants us stuck inside and focused on us.
God wants us all about others and leaving our stuff up to him.

I too often get mixed up with burdens and truthfully I act like God. I start mentoring someone and believe it’s all up to me to physically lift the burden from their life.  And never ever in the bible does it one time say, “Courtney – take and lift all thee burdens from my children.” It says “carry burdens” and “love one another.”

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34

In true authentic community, I am in the business of loving my friends like Jesus would. Ultimately, I am pointing them back to the ONLY ONE who can bring them healing or relief. This doesn’t make it easy – it just makes it doable.I have learned the hard way that my attempt to control, heal, fix and solve can almost sink me and make me resent friendship and community. However, when I get it right and love like Jesus tells us to – He gets the credit, He works and I get out of the way.

So, dear sweet friend who has the heart to serve – it’s not all up to you. You can get back in the game of mentoring without sinking. You can hear burdens so heavy without taking them on full-time. You can provide brief relief. You can carry but not lift. You can listen and comfort. You can be the one who reminds these dear ones that we all need God and He is all we need.

Do you get burned out easy because of the burdens?
Do you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world?
Do you need to gently point some friends back to Jesus?
Do you have some girls that are dependent on you for survival?
Has this idea of carrying burdens kept you from mentoring others?
For His Glory and the next generation-

Titus2 Mentoring Women
info@titus2mentoringwomen.com
For resources to equip and guide you in your mentoring, go to www.titus2mentoringwomen.com
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Courtney is a mom of two sweet girls, Ella and Larson,  and a wife to Ron. Like most moms, it’s a juggling act. Her heart’s desire is to honor God with all she’s got and be a great wife and mom. There’s only so much in the time and day. She speaks and travels as she is able to and she also does carpool and attempt to cook dinner roughly one day a week. Courtney believes in making very personal decisions for your family guided by the one who made you. Say NO to comparing and say YES to following Jesus.To learn more about her ministry: click here

Carry, don’t Lift, Burdens Apr10

wordswag_1488660068978

Carry, don’t Lift, Burdens

Guest blog post by Courtney DeFeo

One of the biggest reasons we don’t mentor is because we are full with our own junk. Well, that’s my excuse.

I have so much on my own heart, with my own family, that I fear I cannot emotionally or physically manage anyone else. The truth is that I am a better person when I am focusing on others and not myself.

The enemy wants us stuck inside and focused on us.
God wants us all about others and leaving our stuff up to him.

I too often get mixed up with burdens and truthfully I act like God. I start mentoring someone and believe it’s all up to me to physically lift the burden from their life.  And never ever in the bible does it one time say, “Courtney – take and lift all thee burdens from my children.” It says “carry burdens” and “love one another.”

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34

In true authentic community, I am in the business of loving my friends like Jesus would. Ultimately, I am pointing them back to the ONLY ONE who can bring them healing or relief. This doesn’t make it easy – it just makes it doable.I have learned the hard way that my attempt to control, heal, fix and solve can almost sink me and make me resent friendship and community. However, when I get it right and love like Jesus tells us to – He gets the credit, He works and I get out of the way.

So, dear sweet friend who has the heart to serve – it’s not all up to you. You can get back in the game of mentoring without sinking. You can hear burdens so heavy without taking them on full-time. You can provide brief relief. You can carry but not lift. You can listen and comfort. You can be the one who reminds these dear ones that we all need God and He is all we need.

Do you get burned out easy because of the burdens?
Do you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world?
Do you need to gently point some friends back to Jesus?
Do you have some girls that are dependent on you for survival?
Has this idea of carrying burdens kept you from mentoring others?
For His Glory and the next generation-

Titus2 Mentoring Women
info@titus2mentoringwomen.com
For resources to equip and guide you in your mentoring, go to www.titus2mentoringwomen.com
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Courtney is a mom of two sweet girls, Ella and Larson,  and a wife to Ron. Like most moms, it’s a juggling act. Her heart’s desire is to honor God with all she’s got and be a great wife and mom. There’s only so much in the time and day. She speaks and travels as she is able to and she also does carpool and attempt to cook dinner roughly one day a week. Courtney believes in making very personal decisions for your family guided by the one who made you. Say NO to comparing and say YES to following Jesus.To learn more about her ministry: click here

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