The Hard Words of Mentoring – part 2 Sep4

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The Hard Words of Mentoring - part 2

(click here for part 1)

Accountability and confrontation. Two of the hardest words when it comes to being a mentor.  Words that require action, but to be effective also require respect.  My mentor was able to speak into my life, nudging me towards more Christ-likeness, and I was able to hear her because I respected her.

My mentor, Regina (founder of Titus2 Mentoring Women),  modeled a life of fierce intentionality in all areas.  It was evident that she was practicing what she preached.  She was faithful in prayer and showed us her prayer journal binders to back it up.  She pursued scripture memorization and it was obvious by the amount of scripture she quoted during our meetings.  She was daily seeking time with God as first priority in the mornings.  She showed the importance of her marriage by having weekly date nights with her husband.  She made her mentees feel special (each feeling like they were her favorite), truly loved, and covered in prayer.  It was evident she sincerely wanted us to grow in Christ.

Her life was worthy of respect and one that I, as well as countless others, looked up to.  One that made us want to be around her more to learn from, and therefore we respected her time and her expectations.  We weren't late because we respected her time. We came prepared because we witnessed the time and effort she put into the group.  We answered her calls because she was worthy to talk to.  We made it a priority because she made us a priority.

So before we can put into action the "hard words" of mentoring, we've got to ask ourselves some hard questions...

What am I modeling to my mentees?  
Is my character worthy of their respect?  
Is my life a life that younger women would want to emulate, learn from, and look up to?

The embodiment of Christ that was so evident in my mentor's life was a huge factor in her success as a mentor.  And the same goes for me and for you.  To be effective in shaping someone else's life more like Christ, we've got to be actively pursuing shaping our lives to be more like Him - enough so that others take notice, respecting us and allowing us to speak truth into their lives to bring about growth that might otherwise do damage.

Without respect, accountability and confrontation are not welcomed, not effective, and very possibly might do more harm than good.  But with respect, mentors are given a powerful platform to change lives for His Kingdom and His glory.

Who is helping shape you, speaking into your life, holding you accountable and not afraid to confront you when needed?
How are you pursuing a life that embodies Christ so that you can help others grow?

"Instruct the wise, and they will be even wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn even more." Proverbs 9:9

For His glory and the next generation,

Screenshot 2016-06-20 at 11.52.45 AM - Edited
Jeni Fobart
Executive Director
Titus2 Mentoring Women
jeni@titus2mentoringwomen.com

For resources to equip and guide you in your mentoring, go to www.titus2mentoringwomen.com
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The Hard Words of Mentoring – part 2 Sep4

wordswag_1503507320355

The Hard Words of Mentoring - part 2

(click here for part 1)

Accountability and confrontation. Two of the hardest words when it comes to being a mentor.  Words that require action, but to be effective also require respect.  My mentor was able to speak into my life, nudging me towards more Christ-likeness, and I was able to hear her because I respected her.

My mentor, Regina (founder of Titus2 Mentoring Women),  modeled a life of fierce intentionality in all areas.  It was evident that she was practicing what she preached.  She was faithful in prayer and showed us her prayer journal binders to back it up.  She pursued scripture memorization and it was obvious by the amount of scripture she quoted during our meetings.  She was daily seeking time with God as first priority in the mornings.  She showed the importance of her marriage by having weekly date nights with her husband.  She made her mentees feel special (each feeling like they were her favorite), truly loved, and covered in prayer.  It was evident she sincerely wanted us to grow in Christ.

Her life was worthy of respect and one that I, as well as countless others, looked up to.  One that made us want to be around her more to learn from, and therefore we respected her time and her expectations.  We weren't late because we respected her time. We came prepared because we witnessed the time and effort she put into the group.  We answered her calls because she was worthy to talk to.  We made it a priority because she made us a priority.

So before we can put into action the "hard words" of mentoring, we've got to ask ourselves some hard questions...

What am I modeling to my mentees?  
Is my character worthy of their respect?  
Is my life a life that younger women would want to emulate, learn from, and look up to?

The embodiment of Christ that was so evident in my mentor's life was a huge factor in her success as a mentor.  And the same goes for me and for you.  To be effective in shaping someone else's life more like Christ, we've got to be actively pursuing shaping our lives to be more like Him - enough so that others take notice, respecting us and allowing us to speak truth into their lives to bring about growth that might otherwise do damage.

Without respect, accountability and confrontation are not welcomed, not effective, and very possibly might do more harm than good.  But with respect, mentors are given a powerful platform to change lives for His Kingdom and His glory.

Who is helping shape you, speaking into your life, holding you accountable and not afraid to confront you when needed?
How are you pursuing a life that embodies Christ so that you can help others grow?

"Instruct the wise, and they will be even wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn even more." Proverbs 9:9

For His glory and the next generation,

Screenshot 2016-06-20 at 11.52.45 AM - Edited
Jeni Fobart
Executive Director
Titus2 Mentoring Women
jeni@titus2mentoringwomen.com

For resources to equip and guide you in your mentoring, go to www.titus2mentoringwomen.com
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