Discerning your Mentees Oct2

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Discerning your Mentees

It's the beginning of the school year and it's possible you and/or your church has just kicked off Titus2 groups.  If that's the case, one of your first jobs as a mentor is to develop relationships with your mentees, which is not a quick process.  It takes time, commitment, and intentionality to really get to know the girls.  But it is so important to the process.  In order to have the most success together, and the least amount of frustration, it is important to take time to discern your mentees.

Discern, verb: "To see or understand the difference; to make distinction; as, to discern between good and evil, truth and falsehood." (webstersdictionary1828.com)

Although there are six girls in your group (or possibly less), each one of them is different. They may be in the same stage of life and live in same areas of town, but they are most likely all at different places spiritually.  They are different regarding maturity.  Different in time commitments, priorities.  Different in personalities.  Even different in how they hear God or feel near to God.  That being said, although Titus2 is one program and you are only one mentor, we have to be skillful in how we discern what each girl needs, where & how much they need to be pushed to grow, how much each girl can handle, and what is best for their personality.  Some of this will be done by gathering up pieces along the way as you get to know them.  But some of it will take more intentionality on your part.  As you have one on one time with each of them, try asking them some questions to help you gain a vision of where they are and where they want to be headed.

Some questions to ask your mentees that might help you -

1. What is it that you really want to be and do?
2. What are you doing really well that is helping you get there?
3. What are you not doing well that is preventing you from getting there?
4. What will you do differently tomorrow to meet those challenges?
5. How can I help / where do you need the most help?

Ultimately, our goal is to make sure we don't expect all our mentees to be exactly the same.  I have three mentees and they are all at different points in their walk.  They are all responding to the program differently.  They each have very different personalities.  And I've found that it is so easy to get frustrated when I expect the same of each of them.

So, get to know your girls.  Just as we have to raise each of our kids a little differently, know and expect we'll have different interactions, different growth, and might need different expectations for each of our mentees.  And remember, everything we do should be through love - unconditional love, as our Father loves each of us.  "And above all else, put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony." Col 3:1

 

For His glory and the next generation,

Screenshot 2016-06-20 at 11.52.45 AM - Edited
Jeni Fobart
Executive Director
Titus2 Mentoring Women
jeni@titus2mentoringwomen.com

For resources to equip and guide you in your mentoring, go to www.titus2mentoringwomen.com
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Discerning your Mentees Oct2

wordswag_1505921960908

Discerning your Mentees

It's the beginning of the school year and it's possible you and/or your church has just kicked off Titus2 groups.  If that's the case, one of your first jobs as a mentor is to develop relationships with your mentees, which is not a quick process.  It takes time, commitment, and intentionality to really get to know the girls.  But it is so important to the process.  In order to have the most success together, and the least amount of frustration, it is important to take time to discern your mentees.

Discern, verb: "To see or understand the difference; to make distinction; as, to discern between good and evil, truth and falsehood." (webstersdictionary1828.com)

Although there are six girls in your group (or possibly less), each one of them is different. They may be in the same stage of life and live in same areas of town, but they are most likely all at different places spiritually.  They are different regarding maturity.  Different in time commitments, priorities.  Different in personalities.  Even different in how they hear God or feel near to God.  That being said, although Titus2 is one program and you are only one mentor, we have to be skillful in how we discern what each girl needs, where & how much they need to be pushed to grow, how much each girl can handle, and what is best for their personality.  Some of this will be done by gathering up pieces along the way as you get to know them.  But some of it will take more intentionality on your part.  As you have one on one time with each of them, try asking them some questions to help you gain a vision of where they are and where they want to be headed.

Some questions to ask your mentees that might help you -

1. What is it that you really want to be and do?
2. What are you doing really well that is helping you get there?
3. What are you not doing well that is preventing you from getting there?
4. What will you do differently tomorrow to meet those challenges?
5. How can I help / where do you need the most help?

Ultimately, our goal is to make sure we don't expect all our mentees to be exactly the same.  I have three mentees and they are all at different points in their walk.  They are all responding to the program differently.  They each have very different personalities.  And I've found that it is so easy to get frustrated when I expect the same of each of them.

So, get to know your girls.  Just as we have to raise each of our kids a little differently, know and expect we'll have different interactions, different growth, and might need different expectations for each of our mentees.  And remember, everything we do should be through love - unconditional love, as our Father loves each of us.  "And above all else, put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony." Col 3:1

 

For His glory and the next generation,

Screenshot 2016-06-20 at 11.52.45 AM - Edited
Jeni Fobart
Executive Director
Titus2 Mentoring Women
jeni@titus2mentoringwomen.com

For resources to equip and guide you in your mentoring, go to www.titus2mentoringwomen.com
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